LEADERSHIP is a JOURNEY that starts where you are, NOT where you want to Be

Integrity is a hard-won achievement

2010-08-22T18:46:00.003Z

Integrity is not a given factor in everyone's life. It's a result of self-discipline, inner trust, and a decision to be relentlessly honest in all situations in our lives. Unfortunately in today's world, strength of character is a rare commodity. As a result, we have few contemporary models of integrity. Our culture has produced few enduring heroes, few models of virtue. We have become a nation of imitators, but there are few leaders worth imitating.

The meaning of integrity has been eroded. drop the word into conversations in Hollywood, On wall street, Even on Main Street, and you'll get blank stares in return. For most Americans, the word conjures up ideas of prudishness or narrow-mindedness. In an age when the meanings of words are manipulated, foundational values such as integrity can be pulverized overnight.

Integrity is antithetical to the spirit of our age. The overarching philosophy of life that guides our culture revolves around a materialistic, consumer mentality. The craving need of the moment supersedes consideration of values that have eternal significance.

When we sell out to someone else, we also sell out ourselves. Hester H. Chomondelay underscores this truth in his short poem, "Judas"

Still as of old
Men by themselves are priced -
For thirty pieces Judas sold
Himself, not Christ.

Billy Graham said, " Integrity is the glue that holds our way of life together. We must constantly strive to keep our integrity intact.
"When wealth is lost, nothing is lost; when health is lost, something is lost; when character is lost, all is lost."
To build your life on the foundation of integrity, use the following poem ( Am I true to myself by Edgar Guest

The final requirement of effective leadership

2010-08-22T18:40:00.001Z

The final requirement of effective leadership is to earn trust. Otherwise there won't be any follower.... A leader is someone who has followers. To trust a leader, it's not necessary to agree with him. Trust is the conviction that the leader means what he says. It's a belief in something very old-fashioned called "INTEGRITY." A leader's actions and a leader professed beliefs must be congruent or at least compatible. Effective leadership - and again this is very old wisdom - is not based on being clever; It's primarily on being CONSISTENT !

This msg is specially for my dear who doubtful on her ability to lead while she possess what a great leader that requires. A strength is not possessed by many individual these days which spells out in the above post.

Am I True to Myself? ( Mirror Test )

2010-08-22T18:34:00.002Z

I have to live with myself, and so
I wan to be fit for myself to know,
I want to be able, as days go by,
Always to look myself straight in the eye;
I don't want to stand, with the setting sun,
And hate myself for things I have done.
I don't want to keep on a closet shelf
A lot of secrets about myself,
Into thinking that nobody else will know
The kind of man I really am;
I don't want to dress up myself in sham.
I want to go out with my head erect,
I want to deserve all men's respect;
But here in the struggle for fame and pelf
I want to be able to like myself.
I don't want to look at myself and know
That I'm bluster and bluff and empty show.
I can never hide myself from me;
I see what others may never see;
I know what others may never know,
I never can fool myself, and so,
Whatever happens, I want to be
Self Respecting and conscience free.

做人两大原则

2010-08-12T20:04:00.000Z

我认为做人一定要有两个原则：
1 老鹰般的自我
2 麻雀般的团队

如想长远打算，缺一不可。
做事时，强者风范。对人时，感性十足。为人友善，做事专业。

而非,
做事时，拖延怠慢。对人时，刻薄无礼。为人骄傲，做事随便。

孤者能达之梦想，非想象中非凡，达到了才觉得空虚与寂寞已太迟了。

Direct Translation (Google) From previous Post

2010-08-12T20:02:00.000Z

有时我们不希望世界知道我们真的是谁。或者，也许我们过于竭力是在别人的眼中理想的人。隐瞒自己和他人的真理 - 和生活，通过别人的眼睛我们的生活 - 可衰弱。

我遇到一个人在我的旅行，特里萨与我分享她的斗争拥抱她的限制：“我是被人喜欢驾驶。它表现为强迫自己是完美的。回想起来，我个人并没有什么概念'完美'的意思，我要。我只有我的什么人可以定义为'信仰完美的生活，我应该有什么样的工作，或谁的好日期。通过看别人的眼睛我自己是我的唯一来源的自我价值。如果不喜欢我这样的人，我会崩溃。然而，如果我有他们的批准，我将高达1风筝。如果只有一个人出一组有200个东西不好说，我会崩溃，崩溃努力。

“为了确保我保持这种完美的个人 - 在工作中或在我的个人生活 - 我会避免采取过错责任。我要么掩盖起来，或试图使它看起来好像别人的错误。它的丑陋，我知道。但我不能让任何人知道我犯了一个错误，我是不完美的。更糟的是，我从来没有一起通过信贷。我的位置在这样一种方式，我将收到的赞美情况。我一定是一个可怕的经理！我没有得到这一切在工作的尊重。很有趣，这些行动是如何我已经失去了它的原因非常多。噢，我是完美的一切权利 - 完美可怜。“虽然发言她，很明显，她在某种程度上摆脱了这种强迫自己。

我问她什么导致了她的人格转变。她怎么放下她需要在别人的眼中完美呢？她告诉我：“这不是一个有意识的决定，其实是。这是推动更多的情况。由于我要请所有的人，所有的时间，我放弃左，右球。我变得烦躁和烧毁而且越来越明显，而我的同事，我是远远不够完善。我终于承认，我不能做这一切。

“那么，一个有趣的现象发生。只要我承认我的缺点 - 这些缺陷使我绝望地试图隐藏在努力赢得尊重和爱戴，我能感觉到这巨大的重量提升。人民对我的反应不同。他们不在我所预期的不良反应的手段 - 他们其实对我更好，更真诚。人民政府要帮助和支持我。直到我发现我是不完美的世界，我开始得到尊重我有这么渴望对。我有这个想法在我的脑海里，从那里来我也许永远不会知道，我是完美的被喜爱。我就是这样一种根深蒂固的信念，我看不到它之外。现在我看到那些两种观念，是完美的，被人喜欢是相互排斥的，我已在自己的生活更加真正它。

“过去，我从来没有让自己感到任何一种消极。你知道，积极思考的力量。然而，它是这些在我的感情，造成难以克服的压力拒绝。现在不是，我承认我是如何真实的感受。如果我心情不好时，我会说的人，我是说了：“嘿，只是让你知道，我是一个可怕的情绪，如果今天我说了一些讨厌的，我想提前道歉。有一次，我拥抱我的消极的想法或信仰，我已同意寻求帮助，或请求宽恕。但在大多数情况下，以为只是暂时消失。

在您可以让全世界知道你是谁真的是，你需要知道你是谁也不知道。我们常常不喜欢看我们自己的局限性。但是，如果我们发现什么是我们的基本行为（或同事的话来说，'在你的和服看'，我们不仅对自己有一个更好的了解，然后才能真正做自己。

Uncover Your Inadequacies - By Goal-Free Living Book

2010-08-12T19:40:00.002Z

Sometimes we don't want the world to know who we really are. Or maybe we try too hard to be the ideal person in the eyes of others. Hiding the truth from ourselves and others - and living our lives through the eyes of others - can be debilitating.

One person i met during my travels, Theresa, shared with me her struggle to embrace her limits : " I was driven by being liked. And it manifested itself as a compulsion to be perfect. In retrospect, I personally had no concept of what 'perfect' meant to me. I had only my beliefs of what others might define as the 'perfect live, what job i should have, or who i should date. Viewing my self through the eyes of others was my sole source of self-worth. If people didn't like me, I would crumble. Yet if I had their approval, I would be high as a kite. If only one person out of a group of 200 had something bad to say, I would crash, and crash hard.

" To ensure that i maintained this perfect personal - at work or in my personal life - I would avoid taking responsibility for mistakes. I would either cover them up or try to make it appear as if someone else made the error. It's ugly, I know. But I couldn't let anyone know that i had made a mistake, that i wasn't perfect. And even worse, I never passed along credit. I would position situations in such a way that I would received the praise. I must have been a horrible manager! I did all of this to gain respect at work. Funny though, how these actions were the very reasons I had lost so much of it. Oh, I was perfect all right - perfectly miserable. " While speaking with her, it became apparent that she had somehow freed herself from this compulsion.

I asked her what caused the shift in her personality. How did she let go of her need to be perfect in the eyes of others? She told me, "It wasn't a conscious decision actually. It was more driven by circumstances. Because of my need to please all people, all of the time, I was dropping balls left & right. I was becoming irritable and burnt out and it was becoming increasingly apparent to my co-workers that I was far from perfect. I had finally admit that I couldn't do it all.

" Then an interesting phenomenon occurred. As soon as I admitted at my shortcomings - those imperfections I tried so desperately to hide in an effort to gain respect and adoration- I could feel this tremendous weight lift. People responded differently to me. They did not react in the unfavorable means that I had anticipated - they actually treated me better, more sincerely. People wanted to help & support me. It wasn't until I showed the world I was imperfect that I started to gain the respect I had so longed for. I had this thought in my mind, from where it came I may never know, that I had to be perfect to be liked. I was such a deeply ingrained belief that I could not see beyond it. Now I have seen that those two ideas, being perfect and being liked were mutually exclusive, and I have taken it upon myself to live more genuinely.

"In the past, I never allowed myself to feel any kind of negativity. You know, the power of positive thinking. Yet it was the denial of these feelings that caused insurmountable stress within me. Now instead, I acknowledge how I really feel. If I am in a bad mood, I would say to the person I was talking with " Hey, just so you know, I am in a horrible mood today and if I say something nasty, I want to apologize in advance.' Once I embraced my negative thoughts or beliefs, I had permission to ask for help or to ask for forgiveness. But in most cases that thought just evaporated in the moment.'

Before you can let the world know who you really are, you need to know who you really are. We often don't like to look at our own limitations. But if we find out what is underlying our behavior ( or as a colleague calls it, 'Looking under your kimono', we not only have a better understanding of ourselves but are then able to really be ourselves.

想法 - 新一代的学校与社会

2010-04-11T17:31:00.003Z

有时我在想到底我们的学校与社会是否在不断的选择制造乖乖的工厂员工，一些只会跟着走但不会大胆创新与领导的新一代。我相信这是因为大部份的老师与学员们都选择容易的方式来处理事务。好好听听话话就好啦。大家好来好去吧。因此失去了什么也不清楚。就是进步的机会啊。大家在原地踏步啊。要进步就要改变，要改变就要有结果。要结果就需要协商。希望大家坚持坦白，珍惜，沟通，共识，执行。以达到创新的效果。

Confused..... Working for money? How to help them?

2010-03-14T16:15:00.003Z

I love my people, family members and friends.

I'm confused. Deeply confused. In business, is it always have to be realistic and calculative? Your people is not your business, they are only care for what is important for them. Eventhough i help them by providing them fish. When i want to teach them how to fish, i find that they are quite closed up and believe what they believe to be true.

How? If they continue to think only for themselves, slowly they will be leaving the business and into a "Making for a living" world. How? How can I stop them for doing that. It's both lost lost situation. Staying back in the business doesn't mean they will be successful. We just need to perform at our utmost peak so that the business will take off.

When business got better, your pay and others will relatively increased.

My thought for today is that, if all people think for themselves. Keeping things to themselves, the world will turned really dark and sour.

If people keep things for others, most likely people will take things for granted. Things also will turn sour. LOL.

Sigh. The balance is hard to achieve. I will do my very best in balancing. Think before i act and speak is the best way of making better decisions as things turning big and the stake is involving more people. Cannot say change then change. Must think as for the impact.

Yes, timing of the decision also is crucial. So, i will think within a timeframe of 10 mins for any decision. Longer it takes, human will have intention to procrastinate.

New idea emerges, not every idea can be materialize.

Confused deeply. Is there any more chances for employment? employment = Selfishness??
Sigh..

Forgiveness

2010-01-29T05:16:00.004Z

After the wed's meeting, I did find out that in TTC that our love towards each other deteriorates due to lack of communications and anger.

Sometimes, i think we are all imperfect human beings.

Human want more control over their circumstances because of fear. They make decision based on the best info gather. Then only realise missed out something. Boom, they hit the wall. Facing consequences of their past decision.

I think in life is not about falling, it's more about stand back up after you fall. Learn and make sure in the future it won't cause another fall.

Learn more about this world. Learn thru experiencing failures and stand back up.

This is when forgiveness kicks in.

Forgiving is not about others. It's about you. Yes, it's only you.

Forgiving means feeling resent about a certain past event. It creates blames and fault plus guiltiness. None of these energies are positive.

How to forgive and stop letting your past destroying your future?

1. Thru Positive Affirmation
Write 5 Affirmation (Suggestion Below )
Every situation brings a gift to me
I Choose to live in joy, posibilities and understand
I have the power to forgive
My past not equals to my future.
I deserve a fulfilling happy life with no regrets.

2. Total Truth Process ( Sentence Completion ) ( Anger=> Love/Agreement. )

Anger
I’m angry that you…..
I Hated when you….
I got really mad when….
I Resent that….

Hurt
My feeling were hurt when….
I’m really sad when….
I feel disappointed about….

Fear
I afraid that….
I’m scared because I think….
I get afraid of you when…..

Responsibility
I’m sorry that i…..
Forgive me for….
I know that my part was….
I didn’t mean to….

Understanding
I understand that you….
What I know is…

Wants
What I really want is….
I hope that….

Forgiveness/love and appreciation.
I forgive you for….
I appreciate you for….
You’re a good friend because….
what I love about you is….

Agreement
I agreed to….
From now on I will….

I personally feel that it's crucial for human to learn true forgiveness or else we all won't move on. Easy to say, hard to do. I know, we can if we want to.

It's just ignorance that cause us failures. Find out more about forgiveness and stop ruining your life ;)

Sungai Congkak Revisit Since KRS camp 2001

2009-12-07T13:51:00.005Z

After of 8 years, sungai congkak has changed alot. The bridge btw Zone 6 and 7 has collapsed due to strong river current during rainy day. Can see the power of the river water.

Becoz of that, I have decided TTC would not do camping at campsite this year due to risk of overflow rivers and strong current during rainy season. Booked 4 chalets instead. Having a meeting by this week friday with committees about the itenary and checklists for this vacation to sg congkak.

When I back to Sungai congkak, i have tonnes of memories there with my KRS buddies. I remember that they took care of me when i'm very ill with chicken pox. Lol. Went to camping eventhough i having chicken pox.

I remember last time KRS have a camp before and i was assigned asst team leader. Because of my "brilliant" strategy that have caused a teammate got into hospital due to eyes injuries when she decided to dodge "enemy" attacks and hide at the side of the trail at nite during "War Games". Really felt sorry for her.

Because of that incident, the committees during that trip got miserable due to that accident, I'm amazed later found out that they didn't blame on me. After many years, I felt i'm responsible for her injuries coz of my idea that's why it happened.

Today, I wake up @ 8.00am coz suet ching called me and she need keys to open TTC. I drive and reach TTC @ 9.00am. After open, i decided to finalized the trip stuff. So I departed to Sg Congkak. Had a quite confusing journey becoz i took wrong turn and forced to U-turn later.

On my way to congkak was like exiting town and entering Village area. Reach Congkak at about 10.30am and saw a 4WD Land Cruiser @ entrance from the Forestry Dept Malaysia. Walk my way into Zones of campsites.

This is the "Hall" and field suitable for group activities.
Rental : RM 250/day

It's located btw Zone 4 and Zone 5

This is Zone 6 Campsite, do you notice there was like 2 man sitting there with a small camp fire.

One of them is Bang Zamri, he's a soldier (Warrant Officer 1) from sg buloh. He's chit chatting with his friend at the campsite.

I greeted them and chit chat about the strong current of sg congkak during rainy season. He's telling me that these days, sg congkak got a lil wild compared to last time.

We chit chat about honey bees around the campsites and lots more. Nice ;)

Suddenly, the Land Cruiser i mention just now slowly drove to the end of the road where the bridge btw zone 6 and 7 ( Destroyed). 5 Strong man came down and i did realised 4 of them wearing forestry uniform and one of them is the manager of the park (wearing slipper ). We chit chat for a while and i found out that they're heading into the forest to find out why the water is cloudy these days and wanted to file some report on that matter.

So they decided to track into the forest to for the cause and source of the cloudiness. I decided to follow them. I didn't prepare at all for this Jungle tracking, i went in with a pair of sandals and shorts. Terrible, first time tracking in such equipments. No parang, water, food, bags, medicine and unprepared.

The tracking starting out quite easy and I'm damn worried about Liches. But then leh, later i have to follow their quick pace and i start treating Liches with Traditional Villager style, Pull them off and throw them away without using salt.

7 of us track into the forest with a mission to find out why the water is containminated with soil.
We reach a big river splitting to two. We did find out only one of the river is in yellow color, we decided to track into the source of the smaller yellow color river to find out the cause.

Looking down at a cliff where i climbed up from. This is one out of four (4) water fall i climbed today. Never thought of climbing four storey high water fall.

This is why the river water got cloudy.
6 of them. (Landslide)

Landslide again. Climbing over a landslide area, first time. Adventurous.

Another waterfall that i climbed. A higher and tougher one.

Land slide area again where tracking over it means anytime falling into the river with my Handphones. Luckily i didn't fall. Or else, good bye to my hp.

That's bang zamri, Malaysia army, searching way to get over the 5 storey high water fall.

That's the waterfall i mean. Big one.

Rock climbing or jungle tracking?

Sampai sini, saya dah tahu, saya sudah "nak kereta"

Surprised with the height and toughness of getting over that.

I did it.

Before rock climbing.

Track for 4 hours and 7km distance today. Syiok. Super duper happy that today i conquered 2 main stuff:-
1. Liches - got 15-20 times today, already immuned to them de. No more fear about them. If you really had them, just removed them with no mercy even without salt. I do find out if you pull them out fast, your wound will be smaller and less noticeable. Abit different from what i learnt in KRS about if you pulled out liches forcefully then the teeth will be left inside of ur body which i find out later to be a myth.

2. Rock climbing and conquered 4 waterfall today. Dangerous but worthwhile. Nice experience. Have to be hyper flexible and fit in order to do it. I find that was fun when you're up looking down what you've accomplished.

3. Tracking rules - the people in front must be fast and swift with out worrying about the man behind, the man behind must have the ability and faith that they can follow the people in front by looking at the foot print and trail left by the man in front. That's a effective tracking method. Better than what i used to believe, must walk in a team. 4 Man front front and 3 man behind slowly coming up to the source of the water.

4. Teamwork is hyper important, man behind carry the load of supplies and front people in charge of scouting and clearing obstacles.

Great day today unexpected. God arranged this for me. Nice. Free tracking experience. Thought got 8 liches mark on my foot, leg and finger. I expect it to turn itchy tommorow. I will do my best not to scratch it.

Hope For Malaysia Unity

2009-11-01T15:43:00.002Z

Today i went to youtube and watch namewee latest video about TNB, shocked how easily human interaction can be disrupted once negative signal got out.

90% of human reaction actually are on autopilot mode. So fast that you can't control it. Somehow, negative action trigger negative reaction.Through that video i learnt that if you want positive reaction, cooperation, first give people positive action. Use words and body language mindfully in order to achieve results you want. Control emotions thru your imagination, don't overkill people. Breakdown only once, keep thinking about it, repeat in mind, it's feel real and will stimulate emotions.

Look how namewee got from calm mode to furious mode.. Interesting observation on human emotion. If dealt correctly, things got done fast and swift. No one like breakdowns. Work together get solution plus make sure proper maintenance in future by contact the head or ketua directly thru 15454 and not thru people you consider "small".

Insulted people and expect others to help you is an act of stupidity. Turn around and feel the other party feeling, if you were him, will you help him? Clearly show that there's no one there to take the extra step to resolve the problem. Both got emo, the restoration got slower pula, coz the commander is in emo mood , can't command well.

Talk nicely and really it works. Connect with other human with patience will resolve things faster and easier.

Youngsters and Old man always fight for different thing, Young want it fast and swift without thinking, and old man think think think scare themselves to death b4 action.

Balance of both is crucial if you want to success. Learn from the video. Learn the power of connection and manners. Learn Power of emo-qoutient(EQ) at work. Sigh...

Hereby, decided to join party within ONE(1) year from now! Now considering party Gerakan or Keadilan. Definitely not MCA, MIC or UMNO coz i don't support racism. No one will care whether you're a CINA, MELAYU atau INDIAN, they consider us MALAYSIAN, please help each other to grow and we will achieve great things!

New Tutor orientation

2009-10-18T18:48:00.003Z

Going to give an inspiring talk for form 5 students about career @ TTC education.
Preparing for it late at night ... haha
Putting in words the whole ttc experience 1st time. Challenging leh ... Hopefully can write it out complete the TTC experience. It's easy to experience, but hard to describe in words.

Ermm.... It's alright, i will do my best this coming friday ;)
Jia you !

Friendship!

2009-10-02T18:34:00.000Z

Friendship consists of a willing ear, an understanding heart and a helping hand.
:)

To the lifters Wilcox write about !

2009-10-02T18:32:00.002Z

Do all the good you can,
to all the people you can,
in all the ways you can,
as long as ever you can!

Which are you?

2009-10-02T18:24:00.002Z

There are two kinds of people on earth today;
Just two kinds of people, no more, I say.

Not the sinner and saint, for it's well understood,
That the good are half-bad and the bad half-good.

Not the rich and the poor, for to rate a man's wealth,
You must first know the state of his conscience and health.

Not the humble and proud, for in life's little span,
Who puts on vain airs, is not counted a man.

Not the happy and sad, for the swift flying years
Bring each man his laughter and each man his tears.

No; the two kinds of people on earth I mean,
Are the people who lift, and the people who lean.
Wherever you go, you will find the earth's masses,
Are always divided in just these two classes.

And oddly enough, you will find too, I ween,
There's only one lifter to twenty who lean.

In which class are you? Are you easing the load,
Of overtaxed lifters, who toil down the road?
Or are you a leaner, who lets others share
Your portion of labor, and worry and care?

Author : Wheeler Wilcox

Self Manage!

2009-10-02T18:19:00.002Z

The first step toward success is leading yourself exceptionally well!

What successful people must self manage!
1. Manage your emotions
2. Manage your time
3. Manage your priorities
4. Manage your energy
5. Manage your thinking
6. Manage your words
7. Manage your personal life

Thought

2009-10-02T18:13:00.000Z

I've never known a person focused on yesterday to have a bettter tommorow.

My Mydin Experience

2009-09-30T17:10:00.002Z

Today, when i on my way home, ttc's paper is out of stock de ... So i msg my bro about that. He said he will settled it. However, he called me back in 15 mins saying that he's tired, ask me to follow up the shortage issue.

So i also accepted and went to Mydin for paper purchases. Took a big trolley @ the wholesale dept. Load paper on that, pay then go thru security checks.

I push my trolley slowly to the car as it's quite heavy. 150 rims of paper anyway. so push it slowly, when i reach my car, got 3 well suited indian guy asked me few question. Can see their tag hanging line with MYDIN, i thought they are mydin employees.

Actually one indian guy holding Iphone took a pict of me putting papers into my car and keep asking me the name of the cashier that help my checkout. How am i supposed to remember their name anyway. So i say "i Don't know." That guy keep saying few names, sort of giving me choice on names. Really, i said i can't rmb or recognize.

Hohoho, he's the marketing director of Mydin and he's curious why am i carrying down so much papers without any help from mydin personnel. Surprise? lol.. The other two guy beside him actually help me load papers into my car even in their suit. I pretty amazed why he's so kind to help me out until i realized he's the marketing director. This shows why he's in that position.

He made a few phonecall to the office and keep asking who supposed to help me push down the trolley and stuff like that. He keep telling of the points and ask me to renew my mydin member card, saying that the points really worth something one... Lol , i know i know, it worth shit la. Few million points to exchange a roll of toilet paper. Really the rewards is not as nice and much as what he described. Just felt like he exaggerated the benefit of the members. Really feel like telling him that the points systems sucks. Haha, i didn't do so, he seems like to promote his system, just don't want to pour cold water over him.

Really, I amazed with his extra effort to help out really;)

I learn something to day,
It's One More Step
It's called Persistence.

Nice. Good nite, it's time to sleep ;)

Yo! New Blog for readers!

2009-09-23T15:37:00.002Z

Now, we all can log onhttp://uhangbook.blogspot.com/ for more blogs on the books that read by me. Summarize of good books and phrases or quotes can be found in the blog above. will have more different blog for different readers.

Thanks for following;)

Dream

2009-09-18T17:29:00.002Z

What is your dream? Will you achieve it in your lifetime? I'm certain that you desire to. I'm sure you hope you will. But will you actually do it? What odds would you give yourself? One in five? One in a hundred? One in a Million? How can you tell whether your chances are good or whether your dream will always remain exactly that - a dream? And are you willing to put it to the test?

Most people i know have a dream. In fact, I've asked hundreds, if not thousands, of people about their dream. Some willingly describe it with great detail and enthusiasm. Others are reluctant to talk about it. They seem embarassed to say it out loud. These people have never tested their dream. They don't know if others will laugh at them. They're not sure if they're aiming too high or too low. They don't know if their dream is something they can really achieve or if they're destined to fail.

Take a look at many of the things that people pursue and call dreams in their lives:-
Daydreams - Distractions from current work
Pie-in-the-sky Dreams - Wild ideas with no strategy or basis in Reality
Bad Dreams - Worries that breed fear and paralysis
Idealistic Dreams - The way the world would be if you were in charge
Vicarious Dreams - Dreams lived through others
Romantic Dreams - Belief that some person will make you happy
Career Dreams - Belief that career success will make you happy
Destination Dreams - Belief that a position, tilte or award will make you happy
Material Dreams - Belief that wealth or possessions will make you happy.

If these aren't good dreams - valid ones worthy of a person's life - then what are?
Here's my definition of a dream that can be put to the test and pass:-
a dream is an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind, will, and emotions, empowering you to do everything you can to achieve it.

"Always remember there are only two kind of people in this world - the realists and dreamers. The realists know where they're going. The dreamers have already been there."- Robert Orben.

Nobody wants to read the small print in dreams. Here are a few of the things you will find:-
1. The Journey will take Longer than you hoped.
2. The Obstacles will be more numerous than you believed.
3. The disappointments will be greater than you expected.
4. The lows will be lower than you imagined.
5. The price will be higher than you anticipated.

I'll share with you once i done verbalizing my dream :)

Malaysia Education System

2009-09-18T16:58:00.004Z

Still remember the days that we all used to be in a class where a inspector sit behind our class to monitor the performance of the teacher?

Still remember what the teacher ask for our cooperation just for that one particular class?

Is that inspectory system ( sistem nazir ) going to work? Performance of the teacher going to be guaranteed?

As a Malaysian, i personally think that our education system is poor. Teacher don't teach well in schools but students still able to get A's in PMR and SPM. When education ministry look at our students' results and they believe teachers done their best in educating students?!

Students score is becoz they're paying extra money to get tuition out there. That's why their results maintain. Tuition provide them proper guidance, motivation and attitude forging where it should be provided in our school system for free.

Results improved, School teachers' "Performance Rating" go up, Promotion for school teachers for not teaching properly. Some of the teacher ask students to go home with them for extra tuition (Not F.O.C type, it's rare these days people do things for their passion instead they often do it for money. If you have a teacher that help you for free, please do thank her/him and appreciate, It's rare.)

Such a system, who will be willing to dedicate more effort to educating students? Teach or Don't Teach, also get pay. Guide or Don't Guide, Students also will get A's. Results guaranteed becoz students is getting substitute out there.

Students also funny one, believe what our economy system ask all of us to believe... University Degree = Status = Income. Education System invented by Government, Government rule by "rich" people.

Just one question, if one day, you have the power to amend laws or rules of the game, will you invent laws that against ur benefit?

The Rich People invented education system that keep producing employees. Make us believe that education is damn important and the only way to success. I'm not saying that education is not important, what i mean is that education is more like a basic to teach us write, read and comprehend plus communicate but not the thing that will lead you to better life just solely rely on that or stop learning after finish uni.

Many of my friends these days didn't read a single book de ... They think reading books is a torture. You see, our basic not focus and delivered. It failed in creating the reading habit and culture.

In my point of view, We together can teach our next generation to release their potential thru focus not entirely on academic performance, instead, we focus both attitude/aptitude and academic.

Teachers nowadays should be successful in one sense that they are exposed in the business world and maybe a successful business owner where him or her spare some precious time to share with our next generation about their thinking. Because i deep down i believe that you can't give what you don't have. To me, personal exposure is very important.

Erm .. Likely I will come out a evolutionary systems to fill the shortcoming of our current education system.

Together we live ;) 1 Malaysia =-)

Sudden thought

2009-09-16T18:08:00.003Z

Jian wen shared with me some network marketing seminar experience. So had some thought to be shared here after a long thought.

Networking marketing is a system which i believe can be further improve in pricing sense. It's so damn expensive when comes to its pricing. obviously priced for upper market. It's a premium product for premium market that make people believe that everyone can enjoy it. In fact it's not meant for people who do not know how to manage their wealth or spending.

I believe that current economic system is failing creating new generation of entrepreneurs these days due to lots of distractions such as insurance, network marketing and so forth that encourage young generation to work for money instead of work for a purpose in life.

Trust level in this world is at alarming and record breaking level LOW. Trust is based on Confidence, which comes from consistently provide good service to its customer. Network marketing make people to believe that it's a easy life up there, but the ugly truth is not. It's not a easy life at all, friend. It may seems easy to you, but to others, it means sacrifice man.

Hard to describe. At bottom level, you live solely for yourself, as we climb up the social ladder, our responsibility grows and freedom restricted. Really, see all the network marketer, can the leader wear shorts and slipper to meeting? or do funny things like having second wife or lots of restriction. It's not like what many network marketer claims.

You know what's sacrifice? It's a choice to make. Sacrifice is likely to happened when you do it becoz of love. Love to others. That's all i can say. That's why i'm blogging here too. It's late at night. I do have a choice. I sacrifice my sleep time, cause i love my blog readers. I want to share more. Love is all about " Undeserved Favors" Means even the recipient of love didn't do any good to you, you still will do a favor for him for no reason or no string attached. That's Love man.
It's so powerful. You know, who tought me that? He's Jesus Christ. Sorry ya. Sounds like religious sensitive, no offence. I'm a great believer in leaders both living one or dead one( although dead de, in my imagination, they're alive!)

Let's get deeper into our current social systems. Malaysia Education System since reformation failed in attracting leaders into education line. Sad to say that. 9.9 out of 10 friend mention careers other than being a teacher. Really being a teacher you must be perfect?

I don't believe that at all. What i believe is that, being a teacher, you must be a loving person. Someone who love others so much that it pushes you learn things beyond what you need in life for someone you love. Want to experience the power of love? Look at parents' love to children. Many news about parents jump pushing their children away from accident, they rather die themselves also want their children to live. It's so powerful. It empowers you to change to anything or anyone. Seriously, you want to be anyone or somebody, you must let your love come alive. Love with no reasons, it's a emotion feelings not logical thinking, there's no right and wrong. It's all about trust. At the end of the day, it fall back to the trust issue. What if he or she betray my love to them.

I can say 9.9 out 10 friend that i love didn't betray me. I Believe in them so much that they can easily trick me or fool me. So far, no many that do that. * Corection from previous Version" *

This world have its own theory, it's like the theory of gravity. Life in this society also got its rules. It's Call " What you want, you first give one. "

You want people smile at you, smile at him or her first. You want knowledge? Share it, and you'll get more. Arr huh.. got it? if haven't nvm, try this.

Go Shopping centre, find some guy, punch him in his face. see what you'll get back from him? A Punch?

haha .....

too much de.. So cheong hei ...

Promised my dear and buddies that I will come out a better systems in helping people to grow.

School systems producing souless students these days. We will build a system that produce Emotion-Rich buddies that overcome the shortfall of today's education.
LET'S US FILL THE GAP;)

Bad Start, Great Ending

2009-09-16T17:23:00.002Z

Today morning late to class cause yesterday slept @ 4am. Can't get up on time... lol ..
Memang felt sorry for my fellow buddies that always wait for me one.. Sigh..

I go class early, they say " you hang, are you sick today? feel abnormal leh"
I go class late, they say "you hang, why are you late ar?"

Woke up 8.30am cause Koh called me. Lol. Reach TTC around 9.10am (late 30mins) sorry sorry, next day by all means i just stay overnight @ ttc if i sleep late.

Had an exam with form 1 and 2 till 10.45am. Worried for their progress in revising final term exam. Time to prepare de..

Had Facebook session 1 hr b4 lunch, then prepare notes to get down to old town, baru found out that Eugene and Yun haven't sampai TTC. Eugene, Morning Day Manager and Yun, Afternoon shift Day Manager.. Just realised that i ruined their day. I look into yun's eyes and i can see she's really emo and unhappy with herself. Just feel guilty of bringing them till so late. Hope we all learn a lesson today.

"We Can Be A Great Friend, A Great Teacher, A Great Leader, A Great Day Manager, A Great Son/Daughter, A Great Parent(future), A Great Spouse and A Great Student." then we live a Great Life;) Remember to fulfill all expectations at all cost. Though energy consuming, but it's worthwhile to live a Great Life, isn't it;)

Went down to Old Town, Just give you a simple description of my Cute, friendly yet distanced form 4 buddies, i bought them ferrero rocher as a gift coz i remember of the promise i maked to them. I love them very much. Though i always got lame jokes and poor presentation due to lack of preparation, they always support me no matter what i do to them, really thank you ya ;) Beyond words, i will improve serve you better;) I promise.

How about my form 5 buddies leh ... it's kinda funny one, they got gang one, assunta , TP and la salle. As a class leader, failed in uniting us together. I love them very much. One great thing about them is they're energetic and outgoing;) Friendly too;)

Finished class @ 5pm , fetch fanny and one la salle buddy back to gasing centre. Really Serious rainfall till traffic jam for 30 mins. reached ttc, i had a facebook session again 30 mins. Then one of my form 4 buddy, jerry called centre and told us that he is stucked @ Lrt station, need a lift from there to centre. so i went lrt and pick him up.

Back to centre, rest for a while, bertolak ke Mid valley had Cjade express for dinner then watch a movie " gamer", it's a action based movie. just find that a bit meaningless. maybe mood tak sama kua.. lol.

Back to centre after the show, meet jian wen, he shared with me some experience @ Amway award ceremony he had yesterday. Which lead me to the next post.

Bakc home and on the way back had a serious phone conversation with yoke abt our future and let her know what's on my mind as she's always curious what's on my mind, coz always got different things one ... Different thing but same value. IMPERSONAL DREAM.

Quite emo for a while and thought of blogging what happened this two days.

Sambung Next post about life.

Fun & Exciting Day

2009-09-16T17:06:00.002Z

haha.. yesterday night went to genting with Qin, Yun, Eugene. hehe.. the story goes like this.
Sitting @ reading room, suddenly qin asked, "Hang, let's go genting, on?" My first instinct is "let's go".

Later I went down KL Kasturi to pick up my beloved yoke, went to ss2 get mango loh plus pay back my bank loan, don't like going such places, so one shot banked in 2 mths payment, no need to see EON Bank Logo for at least 60 days. Lol. Filled petrol and tyre air to my car with yoke. Had Mango Loh in the car and send her back.

While i driving to Highway, Before i enter highway back subang, Suddenly received a msg from qin abt the Genting Deal.. Was quite tired, but then feel qin is a bit moody, so as a friend, i just make a left turn which leads back to TTC. Reached TTC in 5 mins, call & ask him to come down, then msg yun and eugene. Got no reply. Normal. Called Yun, ask whether she want to come along or not. Eugene seems don't want to come becoz next morning he got work to do, which is Day Manager ( Morning Session ) ... Lol. Expected to be turn down. So they said next time. Then Saya dan Qin Bertolak lo... Boom Boom Boom, Down to Federal highway, suddenly yun called and say they join.

Drive back pick them up, then bertolak. On the way driving to genting , Eugene start talking standard quote about mountains. Lol. Laughing & Have Fun. On the way up genting, keep guessing which corner is the sharpest and stiffest. Lol..

Reach mountain top at 12am. Eugene Fly to toilet for big shot. After settled, we went to Mamak @ Car Park, Genting ( Thx Juanie for the bring me there last time) Had a hot milo and eugene had a fried bihun ( Hungry after big shot ) Realise that the price of the mamak is not as cheap as last time de... price increased. Was a bit embarass coz i told them is about the same price as KL or PJ. Manatau, higher price. Cis.

Later after mamak @ Carpark, went to car park roof top, enjoy the soothing breeze of cool air. Fresh and easy. Really missed that in daily life as city is felt more congested these days. Feel recharged after all;) After that went back to car and prepare for going back to KL

Turun Genting @ 1.30am and reach TTC @ 2.30am, smooth traffic and safe drive, no sudden incident, *relieved*

Went back USJ home @ 3am, walk into room and suddenly discover a patch of water, look likes urine. I know it's Kimmy's interesting creation. Went downstairs tangkap her and teach her a lesson plus ask her to sit and stay there to see i clean up so she will not do that again.

After clean up, talked to yoke abt what happened then Slept @ 4am.

Mad Day

2009-09-09T18:33:00.002Z

Today 9 Sept 09 (09/09/09) is a special day that i found out what i've done in the past few months was confused and contradictary.

I love my gf, friends and fellow buddies. I love and enjoy seeing everyone successful in their life in their own means. Sometimes i wonder why human says they want to be someone or somebody yet what they do is totally opposite of what they say they would do. Later ended up in a life which not what they've imagined.

I'm totally confused today. I had a friend calling up asking for personal guidance in accounting, he's telling me that how good and great my teaching is and so forth. I feel good when i hear his praise ( of coz everyone feel great, don't you? ) He's having his exam on next thursday and he want the class so badly and actually offer me high-pay for the guidance job. I didn't take it. Cause i feel that i've quite a number of unfulfilled commitment. My energy and time very limited.

I'm forcing myself to be more discipline and routine each day and on my plan to restructure company systems and people in order to achieve greater results and achieve TTC vision which is to educate everyone to a brighter future.

As I think, i found out that why am i so worried about other people while other people don't even feel the urgency of do the necessary steps to success.

Tonight, I did realise i make a mistake.
The mistake is I keep telling myself that one fine day they will wake up and achieve success. Sooner or later, i found out i'm the only who daydreaming that people will wake up on their own without me doing anything. No they won't. No inspiration, No urge and No shocking wave, they just won't wake up.

So i decided now that i'll wake everyone up as i'm leader and i'm called upon to do the task of leadership. I can't stand aside and just see everyone missing their target and end up in nightmare, wondering why they ended up there.

I don't want to complain or say it out only after those nightmare happens. I want everyone to know that "It's Time". Let's do it together. No say we are stupid or mentally retard. As i always believe We are not stupid, We are just lazy.

Laziness is a habit that can be cure. We must know our purpose on earth is to improve mankind and create healthy environment for our next generation.

Everyone can be a leader, leader is sacrificial. Leaders choose to sacrifice only based on one SOLID reason, they love their followers/people. It's hard to explain the sacrifice in terms of time, energy, effort and freedom. Yes, the cost of being a leader is great, the return from it also tremendous. The return is feeling of Joy in looking others growing up. It's just like daddy looking at their growing child. Day by day, growing up, the joy is non-buyable in any sense. It can be created in leadership.

I love my buddies in class. I believe in them. They're stronger than me. Some of them even destined to reign. I believe in them. I never never look down or humiliate them when they're down cause i've seen them soar like eagles. Life is with up and down. When you're up, i'll be there to celebrate with you. When you're down, i'll always be there to encourage and give you a helping hand + cheer u up.

I believe everyone also can be successful, it's always about consistency in doing things. Life is like marathon. It's long and it require persistence in order to success.
"It's not about doing great once, but doing great everytime. "

Tired. Sleep. It's time.